I think every couple may go through a stage I name “early conflicts”, the stage, when both to some extents realize each other actually thinks and behaves differently and somehow generate conflicts. To conquer this stage, both of the couple have to sense a fact that we are not ourselves only; instead, we have a partner to take care of. In short, a successful relationship is based on mutual understanding & compromises, if any.
I have been stuck with this stage, with pains.
I used to be a pampered and self-centered girl, thinking that I could have my own way at any costs. However my Darling happened to be a figure who resented this concept at any costs. We had very big fights at early days because of this big bifurcation.
I thought if you loved me, you should do whatever I wanted.
Darling thought if we loved each other, we had to make compromises when discrepancy occurred.
I made huge efforts to digest this concept and put it into practice. Without Darling’s patience, we wouldn’t have been through it.
Love is not only a strong emotion. It should include passions, care, trust, dependence, independence, privacy, respect, and two binding hearts.
This was the first lecture Darling has given me. We each other gave lectures and worked most out of them. The lecturing still continues.
